From all corners — magazines, movies, TV and "talk shows" — there's no escaping the message: What people want and need is the latest car, a leaner body, more sex and more money. Such things can be alluring, but their pleasure is fleeting, and ultimately unfulfilling. They bring neither lasting happiness nor love. The false cultural messages are not without impact.
Sexual Behavior in Marriage and Close Relationships
How often do the happiest couples have sex? (It's less than you think)
You might wonder how much sex is considered healthy and whether or not you should be concerned, especially if you would never describe your union as loveless. According to a report from the General Social Survey , the average married couple has sex about 58 times per year, or a little more than once per week. People get into unrealistic comparisons with others over some arbitrary standard. Many experts consider the definition of a sexless marriage as one that engages in sexual intercourse less than 10 times a year. However, Varma prefers not assigning a specific number as there are varying definitions.
Five Contemporary Intimacy Exercises for Married Couples
A sexless marriage is a marital union in which little or no sexual activity occurs between the two spouses. Newsweek magazine estimates that 15 to 20 percent of couples are in a sexless relationship. It may also be known as a mariage blanc , i. Non-consummation may be grounds for a marriage to be dissolved. Sexless marriages can develop over time from a range of possible causes.
That said, a study that appeared in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that the average adult currently enjoys sex 54 times a year, which equates to about once a week. This is less sex, by about nine per year, compared to a similar study done in the s. Interestingly, though, another study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science — which surveyed over 30, Americans over 40 years for three different projects — discovered that a once weekly frequency was the Goldilocks standard for happiness. Sexual intimacy is vital in any relationship, and not just for the sensual pleasure of it all.